Everyday Heroes

Published on: July 22, 2022

In a society obsessed with fictional superheroes, it may seem impossible to live up to those standards. However, looking at life’s common problems and what it means to be a hero, we see just how real and common heroes actually are.

By Rachel Ofo

Imagine rushing to the grocery store. You’ve forgotten one item and ordering a Grab would cost more than the item itself. So, you walk. Taking in the surroundings, you notice a small spider web hanging from a tree. You let your mind wander. Little spiders swinging from branch to branch. Or even better, Spiderman himself swinging across, saving lives, but leaving an absolute mess behind after another battle with the Green Goblin. Who will clean that up? One must admit, superheroes, although helpful, can sully just as much as they can save. Fortunately, we don’t have to experience the woes of those in cities like Gotham. No, our lives aren’t filled with super strong humans who are constantly crashing into buildings, but we still have our own set of problems and every now and then, we need a bit of saving. With as many issues that arise, there are those here to answer our calls for help.

From teachers explaining an assignment your child pretended to forget, to doulas advocating for you every step of your pregnancy journey, life issues are resolved. On the other side of things, where struggles are specific to Thailand, you have food delivery workers dashing through flooded roads to get your order to you in a timely manner. There are condo security guards eager to translate when said order takes a wrong turn. Yes, these are the true everyday heroes. Our everyday heroes don’t have the superhero strength to physically hold us up, but can provide the emotional support needed for raising our family in a country far away from home. No abilities to read minds, but capable of reading signs in Thai. Our lives are a little easier with them by our side. Now let’s hear from Liz, a fellow Bangkok mom, on how she’s received help while living in Thailand.

Who is a hero you call on regularly? For what?

I have to cheat a little here and talk about heroes, plural! Without a doubt, the heroes I call on for help the most are the incredible women who make up my mom tribe. Whether it’s to vent about a bad day with my kids, to ask for advice on how to manage a challenge I’m dealing with, or to freak out about getting a sore throat—they are always there, and they always answer. 

When was a time you were struggling, and someone unexpectedly came to your rescue? How did you feel afterwards?

On many occasions, especially in my initial years in Bangkok, I’ve had people see me struggling to get across a busy road with my baby in the stroller or carrier. Trying to cross three lanes of traffic can be pretty daunting! It’s meant a lot to have people notice and help me to cross safely by signaling the traffic to stop. And it’s not just fellow pedestrians—a couple of times I’ve had a motosai driver slow down and signal the other riders behind to stop, too. Each and every time I’ve experienced this and other situations where strangers have helped me out, it’s warmed my heart.

What trait do you think is most important to have to be a hero? Why?

It has to be empathy. Being willing and able to see a situation from someone else’s perspective can make all the difference to that person. Knowing that someone ‘gets it’ can lighten your load immensely. 

Photos from Canva

About the Author

Rachel moved from the US to Bangkok in 2016. She has a daughter, whom she loves dragging around the city on various adventures. In her free time, she enjoys reading, watching movies and trying new restaurants. She also enjoys being out in nature with her daughter. She joined BAMBI as an assistant editor and looks forward to this opportunity.

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