Living a Fuller Life Through Self-Improvement and Self-Love

Published on: February 12, 2020

We each have the power to improve our lives so Adi Nevo empowers readers to take action and be your own superhero (or heroine) with her advice.

By Adi Nevo

Lately, I’ve been hearing a lot of people say that it is stressful looking ahead at the new decade!

In the dynamic world which we live in, which only gets busier and more hectic, I come across more and more people looking to become a better version of themselves and live life to the fullest.

Some of the things I’ve been hearing are: “I’m not getting any younger,” “I’ve noticed my body changing,” “Life is too short,” “My friend/relative got sick and it got me thinking about how I really want to live my life.”

Well, the most amazing revelation for me in the past year has been how much we can actually change our lives and become heroes of our generation. The main perspective here is self-love. Loving ourselves means acceptance, dedication, and self-care — while listening to our body as it signals what we need and want. This process involves self-inquiry, self-exploration, and of course, a practice that is simpler than you may think.

You are the only one who can be YOU, so treat yourself with some love and respect!

Here are my top 10 tips for self-improvement and self-love:

  1. Practicing positivity – How many times do you say NO in a day? I’m assuming many of you have read the book or watched “The Secret.” If you haven’t, I really recommend watching it. Saying NO to anything that you do not want can actually manifest it in your lives. 
  2. Self-control – How many times did you instantly react to a situation you didn’t approve of or like, with a comment you regretted later on? Practicing self-management is an incredible strength and tool for better communication and relationships between you and the world. 
  3. Filling your bucket – Imagine we all have buckets on top of our heads and we can either fill or empty each other’s buckets, by saying something nice or flattering rather than by saying or doing something which hurts. Try and notice how many buckets you can fill in a day! The more buckets you will fill, the more your own bucket will fill up! 
  4. Practicing gratitude – Develop a habit of being grateful for all that you are and all that you have in life. Journaling is an incredible tool for this one, try writing down three things you are grateful for each morning when you wake up, or each night before you sleep. 
  5. Learning to pause – Slow down and look around you, appreciate a flower, a cat you see down the street, a beautiful cup of coffee made just for you this morning…slow down, sip that coffee, allow yourself that cake you always prevent yourself from (okay, maybe just once in a while, so we can keep ourselves fit and healthy for a longer life!).
  6. Minimizing screen time – Take a stroll without your phone, go out on a date and leave your phones at home, and try not using your phone for at least an hour when you wake in the morning. You will notice wonders and achieve so much more. 
  7. Practicing mindfulness -Yoga, meditation, or any form which you can connect to in order to feel more present. Stay in the moment which will help you connect more to gratitude and happiness (and will help with #5!).
  8. Practicing the art of reframing – A lot of times we feel stuck in some area of life and it is really just a matter of perspective, while we actually have the possibility to change it. Example: “I will not find a job in Thailand (and here is an example that connects well with #1, and how you manifest a negative outcome), it is too complicated here”. 

Let’s reframe this sentence: “I would like to try and find opportunities for jobs in Thailand, I know I can do it if I get some help. I would love some guidance on how to”. 

Another example, you might be reading this thinking, “I don’t have time to get into this, I am too busy working” …which you can reframe to “Although I am busy at work, I will find the time to look into this, one step at a time, day by day!”

  1. Stepping out of your comfort zone – Hate cooking? Try new and easy recipes you may like. Do not workout? Maybe make a habit of once a week, to start? Not very friendly or like to host? Try and invite people over— have a birthday brunch or a Friday night dinner with others at your place.
  2. Learning something new every day – Make it a beautiful habit to carve out at least 20 minutes a day to learn something new that you may like. Many of us will relocate so it is a lot like being an entrepreneur, which means you have to invent and reinvent yourself all the time for new professions, new hobbies, new friends, and new places. So when you find time to learn more about what you love, you may end up like me, from a director of an online startup company to a life coaching career that changed my life. 

I will leave you with this — take risks, LIVE BIG, make mistakes, and fall to rise higher, braver, and stronger! 

Images by Thought Catalog and Drew Coffman on Unsplash.

About the Author

Adi Nevo has lived in Thailand for almost a decade and two of her three children were born in Bangkok. She moved from a demanding senior career in the tech world to an independent life in “Crossroads Life Coaching”.  She has an Executive MBA from Sasin, is a member of the International Coaching Federation, and a Co-Active Coach from CTI.Her work includes personal coaching, online or in-person workshops on finding your life purpose, and ways to live life to the fullest! Call 08-24592078 or visit adinevo.me.


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