Celebrating Papa’s Love

Published on: December 08, 2020

On the occasion of Thai Father’s Day, Chyi shares the subtle love her husband pours into their daughter through cooking her daily meals. 

By Chyi Lee

My husband Deth was more excited than I was when we found out that we were expecting.

While I was still digesting the news, he immediately turned his excitement into practical actions. One of the first things he did was to master driving – he had a license but never needed to drive and we mostly lived on public transport. We figured having a car would make life easier either for going for checkups or our new life with a baby.

In the same week, he booked a driving course, attended the lessons after work for 4 days and on day 5 we drove home in the car that he bought online.

This was just the beginning.

Since then he has taken up additional roles along the way such as birth partner, caretaker, baby food chef, entertainer, teacher and so on.

Both of us are full-time working parents with hectic work schedules. We both have work trips occasionally and he also works on some Saturdays – leaving only evenings and weekends to spend with our child and to get things done for the family. We do not have any family members to depend on in Bangkok, so we realized that we need to work as a team to raise our kid.

I love spending time playing with our daughter, nurturing her cognitively, planning, sourcing and implementing activities for her. I am also capable of communicating with our nanny to agree on daily meals and activities to ensure her essential needs are met. I thought this should be good enough but Deth wanted to bring it to the next level.

As an excellent team player, he identified his role, actively tackled tasks that I am not too enthusiastic about but are equally important.

One of them is shopping for food and cooking. Deth grew up in a family where eating out is rare; the family spends time cooking and eating together every day.  

He enjoys cooking and treasures home-cooked meals, and wants to do the same for our kid. Since our baby turned 4 months, he started to research baby food and identified places to source fresh ingredients, experimented with various recipes, and committed himself to cook fresh food for our baby every day.

He created a routine – every weekend he procures fresh fish at the morning market and vegetables at the farmers’ market. On Sunday night, he pre-processes the fish or meat, packing them into daily cooking portions for the coming week. Every night after dinner or after everyone goes to bed, he goes to the kitchen to prepare the baby food for the next day. If he cannot make it at night, he will wake up earlier in the morning to prepare before going to work.

He has been doing this almost every day for about 2 years now and it has become a good habit. He has also mastered some good cooking techniques especially for preparing food for young kids.

Honestly, these are not tasks that I am keen on and I used to suggest that we let the nanny take over the cooking role so that he could do something more ‘productive.’ He insisted on continuing because he wants to be able to monitor the food and ensure that it is properly and deliciously made. I think he really enjoys it and uses the cooking time to relax and to express his love for our daughter.

I also learned to see this as something really beautiful; these simple daily meals nurture our daughter’s taste buds, introduce her to flavorful and nutritious food, build a healthy eating habit since young, with papa’s love blended into her food.

About the Author

Chyi enjoys learning about others’ stories, writing and sharing them widely. She recently started volunteering for BAMBI’s editing team to fulfill her passion. She and her husband Deth have a mini blog on Facebook to share their parenting story: https://www.facebook.com/papalove.bkk/   

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